Basics of Online Dating

Your ready to take that next step in finding a partner.  Your looking around and deciding that online dating may be the way to go.

Maybe your technically challenged or just so nervous about the whole idea, that you just don’t know where to start. Let’s take a look at some of the very basics to get you going on your way.

Pick a Site

There are a plethora of choices out there when it comes to choosing an online dating site. Most fall into two different categories; paid subscription or free.  While a paid site may give you more financial and personal security, you may feel that a no cost option is the way to go when you are still just testing the waters.

Either way look at many different sites and choose one that is going to give you the results you want.  Often both pay and free sites allow you to browse profiles for free before making a commitment to actually connect with someone.  Make sure you choose a site that has a wide range of members, you don’t want to limit yourself or your choices.

Start a Profile

You have picked your site and your ready to begin. Let’s write that profile.  Consider a profile like a first date or maybe even an introduction given by a friend to a prospective date.  Be honest, be sincere and be yourself.   If you truly are in the market for a long term relationship, than you wouldn’t want to advertise yourself as something or someone you aren’t.

Also, make sure you post a picture with your profile.  You want it to be relaxed and natural; don’t post anything that could be construed as offensive or fake.  Make sure you answer every question that is given to you.  The more information you give, the more likely you are to find a match with similar ideas and thoughts.

Start Browsing

Another reason that your profile is so important is that many sites try to take the guess work out of compatibility.  They look for key words and interests to connect you to prospective matches.  When your profile is completed you will either be given a series of quizzes or questionnaires to determine personality traits.

Your answers are then compared to other members’ answers to give you a listing of those that most closely match your own.  It is then up to you to browse through the candidates and start connecting.  Maintain the same honesty and approach to these introductions as you would your profile.

You don’t want there to be any surprises when you do finally meet in person, because after all that is the goal a face to face meeting with a potential partner.

Basics to Remember

Remember that no matter which site you use or which avenue you take it is your choice with whom you connect and it is your responsibility to be vigilant.  If you have friends or relatives who have used online dating, ask them for advice, pointers and cautions.

If one particular site doesn’t work for you, try a different one.  You wouldn’t keep going back to a restaurant if you didn’t like their menu, use the same philosophy when shopping for an online dating resource.  Get out there and get clicking, you never know who you might meet.


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